Or a good work out you are being self indulgent My guess is that those of you who didn t find the value in this book are unhappy with your own life Perhaps you should be a little self indulgent yourself I am mbarrassed to read this book in public The title and the flowery pasta y cover screams I m a book that contains the relentless rants of a neurotic 34 year old womanSo I m afraid that the strangers on the Metro will think I identify with herBut in the comfort of my own bed I am totally falling for this memoir Yes Gilbert is motionally self indulgent are we supposed to feel bad that she lost both houses in the divorce annoying she s just tickled when she gains 23 pounds after ating her way through Italy and often really immature oh The ndless ndless cryingThen again this is a memoir and when the writing is just so clever so hospitable so damn funny it s really hard to hold that against Gilbert in the Die Neurobiologie des Glücks: Wie die Positive Psychologie die Medizin verändert (German Edition) endThe plot goes something like this A 30 year old writer hasverything she wants including several successful books a husband and two houses When she realizes she doesn t want to have kids and that she s not happy after all she has a breakdown and leaves her husband In the process she realizes she has no identity Boo hooBut instead Gilbert decides to pack up and visit Italy India and Indonesia three places she hopes will ultimately bring her the inner balance she s been longing for And on the surface this book is a really Meditieren mit Musik und Klngen: Inspiration Nada Yoga entertaining travelssay Gilbert has this wonderfully uirky way of describing MasterCases in Spine Surgery everything A piece of pizza a gelato And the people It s on her travels that I start to identify with Gilbert When I was 21 I spent four months traveling in Australia Just like Gilbert during her first weeks in Italy I was totallylated by my freedom But about two weeks in the loneliness came around and so did the anxiety My typical day started with this inner monologue I have to get to the museum before noon so I can fit in the sea kayaking trip at 2 And then I have to rush to the grocery store to get food to make dinner in the stinking hostel kitchen because god forbid I go out to at causeIHAVETOMAKETHEMONEYLASTFORTHREEMOREMONTHSYikes How I nvied the Eurotrash who could just sit by the hostel pool and read all day But if I didn t do Keepers Compendium everything then I would have failed at traveling In retrospect Australia was a turning point in my young life I had no idea that this go go go attitude was how I had been living for years No wonder people thought I was uptight Relaxing had never comeasy to me and it never will but I m getting a lot better at letting go and not worrying about seeing The Man with the Golden Gun (James Bond role-playing game) [Box Set] every last museum so to speakGilbert ruminates on this topic uite a bit in her book Her first moment of true unfettered happiness comes when she poaches someggs and ats some asparagus on the floor of her apartment So simple but so fulfillingIn India she writes that life if you keep chasing it so hard will drive you to death Gilbert is living in an Ashram a place where people come to meditate and xperience divinity She s not very good at it and she wonders if all the Schmerzmedizin - 1000 Fragen energy she s spent chasing the nextxperience has kept her from njoying anything At this point in the book I find myself wondering if Gilbert wants to be there at all Perhaps going to an Ashram was the thing she thought she should do not what she wanted to do I sure as hell wouldn tWhat I really love about Eat Pray Love is that it s all about asking the simple uestion what do I want a uestion that would have come in handy in Australia and numerous other times in my life It s so hard for some people including me and it really shouldn t be I think that when you can honestly answer that uestion No I don t want to go to that discussion on post modernism ven though I realize that I should be I don t want to go to that discussion on post modernism The Viva Mayr Diet: 14 days to a flatter stomach and a younger you even though I realize that I should be in it and it would make me a lot cooler in youryes Really I just want to watch back to back Aviation Logistics: The Dynamic Partnership of Air Freight and Supply Chain episodes of Scrubs you re well on your way to realizing your own identity and being ok with whoever that person is Don t bother with this book It took me nearly a year to finish it I was so disgusted by the writer s apparent lack of awareness of her own privilege her trite observations and the unbelievably shallow way in which she represents a journey initiated by grief that I initially couldn t bear to read beyond Italy Like others who have written here I made myself pick the book Eat Pray Love is the monologue of a Neurotic American Princess Liz in her mid thirties The first few chapters background the rest of the book a confessional that tells how she came to find her 8 year marriage distasteful realised she wasn t keen on the next logical step which is apparently to fill herxpansive apartment with children and plunges into an impotent depression Without R High Performance Programming even getting drunkOne night whilst bawling on the bathroom floor a habit she has grown fond of she is struck by a flakey attack of twattery Being an American thisxperience manifests itself as finding some kind of God or thereabouts Naturally she resolves to leave her husband Her husband isn t keen on this development and Liz finds that strangely he takes poorly to having his heart shattered into a million piecesHusband behaves badly and our protagonist feels hurt and sad But no matter because before long Liz hooks up with the sexy xciting yoga chanting David who takes a five minute break from his headlong David who takes a five minute break from his headlong toward floaty Thai fisherman s pants a thin ponytail and male pattern baldness to rattle her well bred bones Liz drinks deeply from lust s stagnant wellBut divorce negotiations do drag on leaving Liz once again bawling on the bathroom floor This time however it s David s bathroom floor And David it seems is unimpressed by such displays It seems men are interested in women for their uniue and interesting ualities and unless you are Bob Dylan melancholy gets old fast Incidentally if you find a chap who does like this constant mo drama then runHere s what really bothers me about this book Eat Pray Love is a New York Times bestseller It was recommended to me by a friend a woman who is a successful publisher in her own right According to her this is the best book she has read this year It s been a short yearIn short she isn t given to fawning Scala for Java Developers excesses that one mightxpect from anyone who doesn t think this book should have been printed on softer paper I think 3 ply would about do it So I was surprised by her ringing The Qur'an, Morality and Critical Reason: The Essential Muhammad Shahrur endorsementI am told you see that women get this book Which means they sympathise and understand it I bet its on Oprah s Fucking Book ListWith this in mind here s what I will say when I am invited to Oprah s Fucking Book clubfeminist rantWomen You will get to thend of this book and may still be under the illusion that it is not your responsibility to make yourself happy Whereas it is in fact your own responsibility to make yourself happy Being happy without being with a man does not trivialise love You should find challenges Vermeer to Eternity entertainment funxcitement passion the thrill of mastery and satisfaction of achievement through your own doings not who you are doing Love might Heaven to Betsy enhance this It cannot substitute thisCan you imagine if men felt so incomplete without women When did is become acceptable for men to be our projects When did it become acceptable for women to be defined by their men as. Y career and find instead what she truly wanted from life Setting out for a year to study three different aspects of her nature amid three different cultures Gilbertxplored the art of pleasure in Italy and the art of devotion in India Ok I admit I still have about 30 pages to go which I will get around to reading soon need a break from the book though and which I highly doubt will prompt me to change my 2 star rating I know many people love this book for what I consider personal reasons therefore I tread lightly so as to not come off as critical of people s personal opinions rather just the book itself First I found the author not so likable I ve read other readers reviews in which she was described as so funny and like a girl we d all love to know and have to tell you I didn t feel the love She came off to me as lofty self absorbed and needy I felt like she wanted to make herself a victim of her divorce and her depression She was so vague about some aspects of the decline of her relationship with her So B. It ex husband as well as with some details about the divorce which led me to believe that she really did a number on him but then she whined throughout the book about how HE was the one making the divorce so difficult I don t mean to sound judgmental of how she coped with it because I can t relate to that and it would be unfair of me but I just couldn t help but feel that she kind of bashed thex a little when she was seemingly the majority of the reason for their split Plus she acted like she is the only person in the world to suffer through a divorce yet she was totally in love with another man less than a month after she realized she wanted out of her marriage and her account isn t clear as to how long after her realization she actually got the divorce ball rolling so I can t help but assume she was unfaithul So it was hard to have sympathy for her when she got hysterical over the Cabaret ex disagreeing about settlement details Um I would think that happens when you blindside your spouse with a divorce reuest Not saying it s right just saying that s lifeSecondly in her search of spirituality I couldn t help but find some of it a little far fetched And could she have drawn out her stay at the Ashram in India any longer or with mind numbing snooooze inducing detail I found myself skippingntire paragraphs at a time and not just because I was in a bit of a hurry to read the book before book club but because she bored the hell out of me My favorite part of India ironically was Richard From Texas So I suppose that just sums up for us what I got out of the India sectionBut I won t leave us all on a totally negative note I njoyed parts of the book some of them thoroughly I loved her friends for instance and am perplexed at how I find the author so unlikable but somehow she has such cool people in her life And she was SOMETIMES funny with little sarcastic bits that caught me off guard and made me laugh aloud When she wasn t being overly wordy I loved reading her descriptions of Italy India and most specially Indonesia And of course who didn t drool over her description of that pizza in Naples YUM I read that part twice What I m about to say must be wrong because I couldn t get through this book I tried And I failed So I have NO BUSINESS WRITING THIS Don t read itA cousin recommended EPL and I thought it would teach me something about the book market My secret boyfriend at the public library was horrified I checked it out given his ACLU offensive intimacy with my record and tastes and yes like others I was mbarrassed to have EPL in my possessionBecauseWhat IS this MOVEMENT of lily white bourgeois women with fancy ducations working themselves into identity crises that they think can be solved by a new form of coloniasm This hyper feminized adventure travel Subaltern poaching for the 21st century Taker mentality as spiritual uestThese people
need their own version of Outside magazine or some shit Oh yeah they already do It their own version of Outside magazine or some shit Oh yeah they already do It called the GAIAM catalogYeah We re talking some serious dilettante tourism taking Trading Places: The Netherlandish Merchants in Early Modern Venice entire countries as theme spas Italy forxcess India for asceticism Indonesia for the middle path Ladies Country I is not your personal terrain for self discovery You don t get to interiorize Country I as a metaphor for your personal potential If your interior journey needs a bunch of leisure time and poor countries to be realized maybe you re asking the wrong uestionsThe consumerist mentality was so self important and so priveleged that I just couldn t make myself give this book any time Shallow self indulgent and mired in the sort of liberal American obsession with oriental En plein coeur exoticism that is uniuely offensive because it is treated asnobling by its purveyors She treats the rest of the world as though it The Bookshop on the Shore exists for the consumption of jaded rich white Americans and this book is a monument to that sort of arrogance and ignorance I found this book unbelievably phoneyI hated this so much that I got uparly this morning to finish it and gave my copy to the library and honestly I m not too proud of thatTo me it just felt so insincere that there s no chance I would have made it past the second chapter had it not been for book club obligationsI Dance Real Slow enjoyed her writing style but I absolutely could not warm to her at all To be fair I do think she would be anxcellent travel writerThe section on India was agony to read I have met nough people freshly returned from Indian ashrams to know that they often seem a tad self absorbed and I also suspect that they really only get up at 3am so that they have ven me time She didn t do much to alter my opinionHonestly this woman meditated longer harder and bluer than anyone The Day Christ Was Born: The True Account of the First 24 Hours of Jesus's Life else has past or present She won the meditation competition that no one was actually having Possibly it was notnlightenment that she found but simply that she finally became completely self absorbed Easy mistake to make This was one of those books I will read over and over again All those cynics out there who criticize Gilbert for writing a too cutesy memoir that seems beyond belief and who claim that she "is selfish for leaving her responsibility are clearly missing the point First "selfish for leaving her responsibility are clearly missing the point First did not write the book to inspire you She wrote it as her own memoir you can agree or disagree with how she went about her nlightenment but you cannot judge her for how she found happiness It is her memoir not yours You can achieve nlightement by whatever means you want Second to call her irresponsible for leaving responsibilities behind is absurd She was in an unhappy marriage You cannot force yourself to be Happy I Applaud Her For Doing Something That Many People I applaud her for doing something that many people afraid to do She had no children and so the responsibilities she neglected were minimal I also suspect that those of you who didn t njoy the book could not relate to it You have never suffered a life changing tragedy You have never felt paralyzed by fear anger or disappointment You have never had to go through a healing process that seems ndless You have never felt lost That s great for you but unfortunately that makes it hard for you to relate to this memoir Finally those of you who found her story too unbelievable have probably never felt the joy of traveling the world There is no better way to discover yourself than getting out of your comfort zone and immersing yourself in someone PostgreSQL Server Programming - Second Edition else s Traveling the world is not self indulgent If doing what we want to ornjoy doing is self indulgent then we are all guilty If you are njoying an ice cream sundae meeting your friends for a night out. This beautifully written heartfelt memoir touched a nerve among both readers and reviewers Elizabeth Gilbert tells how she made the difficult choice to leave behind all the trappings of modern American success marriage house in the countr.
summary Eat Pray LoveIf something less than this arrangement denigrates the sanctity of a relationship Fuck until I read this book I thought I d dealt feminism a crippling blow by jack knifing the trailer this morning I look like Susan Sontag in gumboots compared to this bookIn EPL the author s only xplanation for her pathetic simpering twattery is that she is as affectionate as a cross between a Golden Retriever and a barnacle This is supposed to tell us why her sex life resembles pollen in a strong breezeTo her and all other Oprah book clubbers who get this book get a Golden Retriever Or barnacles Or maybe a Golden Retriever with barnacles But for sweet knit one purl one Christ leave this book on the shelfPost Script I m not anti American I lived there and many of the best people I know are Americans I have however noticed a peculiar The Taste of Night (Signs of the Zodiac, enthusiasm for Godliness in the land of the free WHY I cringe to think why so many women want to feel that this was a true spiritual journey It was a pre paid journey The woman starts off with telling us over and over about how painful her divorce was however she dismisses how itver came to be that way Leaving her audience only to guess it was so horrible she had to leave and find herselfWhen asked in an interview if dumping her husband and pushing off wasn t selfish here is what Ms Gilbert had to say What is it about the American obsession with productivity and responsibility that makes it so difficult for us to allow ourselves a little time to solve the puzzle of our own lives before it s too late This statement alone tells so much A responsibili Wow this book took me on a roller coaster ride I couldn t decide if I loved it or hated it and it seemed like very few pages I d go from thinking Gilbert was delightfully witty to thinking this was the most horribly self absorbed person to ver set foot on the arth In the nd the overall ffect was rather like sitting at a party listening to someone tell a long involved story all about themselves and you re alternately annoyed and fascinated and you want to get up and leave but she s just so ntertaining that you keep telling yourself you ll leave in the next minute and so you Exile and Pilgrim end up sticking through the whole thing WARNING LOOONG REVIEW AHEAD I didn t hate Eat Pray Love but it left me really unsatisfied When I first started reading the book I couldn t help rolling myyes and thinking Here we go another tale of a precious privileged woman who is unsatisfied with her life I stuck with it though and was charmed through the Italy section by Gilbert s humor and down to arth writing style Still for a woman who abandons verything in search of a true spiritual Hannah Montana: The Movie experience she leaves most of the important uestions unanswered I felt that Gilbert projects herself so strongly ontovery place and very person she ncounters that I m not sure what she really learnt along the wayAs delightful as the Italy section was to read I felt like she never really stepped out of herself to understand the country on its own terms and to move beyond the stereotype Despite it being a bit of a superficial assessment I have no problem with Gilbert associating Italy with pleasure There is nough beauty there to warrant itIt was her interpretation of what it means to open oneself to pleasure that bothered me and seemed very narrow For Gilbert this consisted mostly of overindulging in foods and allowing herself to put on weight It seemed like she came to Italy thinking she already knew how to xperience pleasure and proceeded to nact it based on her definition ven though there are indications that the Italian interpretation of pleasure is not merely restricted to this I would have liked to see her Cardiovascular Pet: Current Concepts explore what it meant to devote herself to pleasure just as seriously and reverently as she seemed to take the meditativexperiences in India Overall though herself to pleasure just as seriously and reverently as she seemed to take the meditative xperiences in India Overall though biggest problem with this book was I had difficulty at times believing Gilbert achieved
the nlightenment she talks about because she is so internally focused Most importantly I still have not reallyenlightenment she talks about because she is so internally focused Most importantly I still have not really why it was necessary for her to travel to these 3 places I understand that her intention was not for this book to be a travelogue but it begs the uestion Why was it necessary to go to Italy India and Indonesia if the purpose was to not to gain something from them that could not be found A Companion to Peter Martyr Vermigli elsewhere Invery country Gilbert created a little security blanket of The Best Four Years: How to Survive and Thrive in College (and Life) expat friends who seemed to cushion her from really understanding the lessons the countries had to offer on their own terms Why go to India to meet Richard the big Texan Guru forxample Why not just go to Texas For those of us with yelids only half caked with dirt but who can t uproot our lives and travel to countries of our choosing is nlightenment still an option I wanted Gilbert to talk about how anyone with an ordinary life but who is searching for insight could still balance spiritual yearning with duty And that s my final peeve
about this book I wondered if Gilbert had any sense of duty or sense of obligation to anythingthis book I wondered if Gilbert had any sense of duty or sense of obligation to anything herself Gilbert seems to recognize the bonds of duty that restrict the locals she The Time of the Hunters Moon encounters Yet she somehow paints them as pleasurable or inevitable yokes for the people who bear them Her detached observations of life and death rituals in India and Indonesia as though they are restricted to those parts of the world made me want to shake her and say but there are ritualsverywhere you have made a conscious decision to remove yourself from the ones you know I ask about duty not because I wanted Gilbert to stay in a loveless marriage but because the concept of duty is also linked to a concept of justice What is it that we ought to do What do we owe Vegas Vacation (Destination: Desire, each other Part of me felt that Gilbert took comfort in the non dual aspects of Eastern philisophies in a strange way She seemed almost relieved that the non duality ofxistence would nsure that one would not necessarily be punished by the universe for selfish deeds I felt like Gilbert mbraced that aspect of the philosophy without realizing the ual importance those cultures place on the balancing notions of reciprocity duty of being social beings in the truest sense often taking it to the other negative xtreme The lack of sense of obligation to anyone other than herself made Gilbert seem curiously dead to the contradictions around her She didn t seem perturbed at the abject poverty of the Indian women around her or to uestion if it was just She never wondered how a spiritual person should grapple with the injustice of the world nor did she seem to uestion the rightness of living in the midst of poverty in an artificial nvironment created to specifically cater to pampered Westerners In Indonesia she finally seems to see beyond herself to the suffering of others but when she does try to help someone it seems impulsive and done almost with carelessness so that the whole thing almost becomes a big messAfter all of this the nd of the book just seemed to fall flat as Gilbert tried to wrap things up uickly crowning it all of course with a romance with a doting and Another Way Home exotic lover This book had a lot of potential but ultimately it seemed like a story about one woman s sense ofntitlement and her inability to ver uite move beyond that though she does make some valiant fforts to do so. Nd then a balance between the two on the Indonesian island of Bali By turns rapturous and rueful this wise and funny author whom Booklist calls Anne Lamott's hip yoga practicing footloose younger sister is poised to garner yet adoring fan. ,